
First Day Jitters: Managing Your Child’s Back-to-School Anxiety
The first day of school is an exciting time, but it can also be nerve-wracking for children—and their parents. For most kids, back-to-school anxiety manifests as sleepless nights, stomachaches, or a reluctance to attend school. Read on for simple tips to help your child manage their back-to-school anxiety effectively.
Understand the Source of Anxiety
In most cases, children may feel anxious about school for many reasons, such as:
- Fear of the Unknown: New teachers, unfamiliar classmates, or a different school environment can feel overwhelming.
- Social Pressure: Making friends or fitting in can be especially tough for shy or introverted kids.
- Academic Stress: Feeling worried about keeping up with schoolwork or doing well in certain subjects can create extra pressure.
Communication
You should encourage your child to talk about their feelings and validate their emotions. Most importantly, avoid dismissing their concerns as minor or unimportant. These are some things to consider for effective communication:
- Ask open-ended questions such as, “What are you most excited or nervous about?”
- Share your own childhood experiences of starting school to create relatability.
- Reassure them that it’s normal to feel nervous and that many children feel the same way.
Prep for the Big Day
Preparation can significantly ease your child’s first-day jitters.
- Visit the School: If possible, arrange a visit before the term starts. Walk around, locate classrooms, and meet their teacher. This familiarity can reduce feelings of uncertainty.
- Establish a Routine: A week before school starts, adjust bedtime and morning routines to align with the school schedule.
- Involve Them in Planning: Let your child help pick out school supplies and pack their bag.
Coping Skills
Empower your child with tools to manage their anxiety in the moment. A few coping skills they can rely on include:
- Deep Breathing: Show them how to take slow, deep breaths to stay calm. A simple method is to breathe in for four seconds, hold for four seconds, and breathe out for four seconds.
- Positive Affirmations: Encourage them to repeat phrases like, “I am brave” or “I can handle this”.
- Role-Playing Scenarios: Practice everyday school situations, such as introducing themselves to classmates or asking for help from a teacher.
Think Positive
Help your child see school as an exciting rather than a dreadful experience. Thinking positively can help promote a healthy relationship with their school and improve how they view their learning environment. Some important things to consider to encourage positive thinking include:
- Highlight the Fun Aspects: Talk about making new friends, participating in sports or clubs, and discovering favourite subjects.
- Celebrate Small Wins: Praise their achievements, such as finishing the first day or making a new friend, to create positive feelings about school.
- Set Realistic Expectations: To ease the pressure, focus on effort, not perfection. Remind them it's okay to make mistakes because learning takes time.
Be Aware of Yourself
Children often mirror their parents’ emotions. If you’re visibly anxious or overly concerned, they may pick up on your stress.
- Stay Calm and Positive: Speak about school in an upbeat tone and focus on the positives.
- Be Supportive: Let your child know you’re there for them, but avoid being overly protective, as this may reinforce their fears.
- Encourage your child: Help them express their emotions through art or writing. (For more tips, go to Affinity Health.)
Know When to Seek Help
While some anxiety is normal, excessive or prolonged distress may require professional support.
- Signs to Watch For: Frequent meltdowns, refusal to attend school, or ongoing physical complaints (such as headaches or stomachaches) could indicate deeper anxiety.
- Reach Out: South Africa offers resources such as SADAG (South African Depression and Anxiety Group) and school counsellors who can provide guidance.
Helping your child with back-to-school anxiety entails more than just the first day—it’s about building confidence and resilience. First-day jitters are normal, but by listening to their concerns, keeping communication open, and teaching simple coping strategies, you can turn their worries into growth opportunities. With preparation, support, and encouragement, your child can start the school year with excitement and optimism. Every small step forward is a win worth celebrating.
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